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We are all "born into a state of lack" which John Storey covers when discussing Jacques Lacan. Hagrid explains how for his mother "what counts is producin’ good big kids" she left because Hagrid didn't meet her standards. So Hagrid had to deal with the initial incomplete feeling everyone feels when we are separated from the mother at birth, and then also with self-appearance problems. When Hagrid sees himself in the mirror he will see himself stuck between both of his parents one who is a giant and one who is a wizard. Hagrid is too small for the giants and too big for the wizards, he visually doesn't fit in. We can see that in the photo where Hagrid clearly stands out . After his mother leaves Hagrid uses his father as a substitute for his desire to have an intimate relationship that he lost with his mother and his father didn't judge him on his appearance he stayed and took care of him. But lack is a constant cycle and when Hagrid was twelve his father past away leaving that part of Hagrid that desires an intimate relationship where no judgement is made based on appearance empty. We see Hagrid throughout the Harry Potter series in unhealthy relationships with dangerous creatures which all started with Aragog who he got right after his father died. Hagrid creates these relationships to fill his desire for a close relationship where he isn't judged on his appearance. These are all dangerous creatures who are judged in society based on appearance, so Hagrid is able to relate to them and understand there is more beyond appearance. I think this is a reason why Hagrid doesn't seek out help from friends, because he doesn't think they would understand.
References
Cultural Theory and Popular Culture an Introduction by John Storey
The Order of the Phoenix by J.K. Rowling
Cultural Theory and Popular Culture an Introduction by John Storey
The Order of the Phoenix by J.K. Rowling